I saw this meme the other day and it stuck with me. You can “someday” your way out of a life. Let that sink in – I’ll wait.
I’m sure we are all guilty of this. I am. You end up focusing on the “shoulds.” I should work those extra hours at work. I should put in the extra time and effort for that promotion. You end up chasing the dreams of others, and not making time for your own.
And then there are the, “I wish I had time” moments. The vacations you never take because you don’t have time. The Sunday Funday with friends you don’t do because you are supposed to be cleaning out the closet. Insert the things that you forego and the excuses you make for it here. We all have different ones. I once told a friend, “you make time for the things you want to do.” And then I’ve said the same thing periodically to the same friend for the last 22 years. But the fact that I’m still saying it, obviously means it’s so hard to do it. I’m not immune.
What are those things that you want to do? What are those things you have been putting off until “someday”? When is your someday? Are you letting someday pass you by, getting further and further out of reach as you chase the here and now?
And if you are, and almost all of us are, why? What’s your motivation? Is it fear of change? It is the desire to please someone else whose dreams don’t align with yours? Is it a feeling that you aren’t good enough to make it happen? What is holding you back?
I want to slow down. I want more time for travel. I want more time with family. I want more time to read and look for rocks and wander. And I want it to be someday already.
What’s the life you are “somedaying” your way out of? And what are you going to do about it?